• Shaelyn Heise

The First Step is Speaking Up

As everyone knows there has been a stigma surrounding mental illness for decades. In recent years the discrimination has been challenged by many different movements such as #BellLetsTalk, among others. By now, the average person knows that if you are diagnosed with a mental illness, you should reach out and seek help. However, the stigma surrounding the subject remains. From experience I have learned that talking about what you're going through during hard times can be life saving. There are so many reasons to reach out if you're struggling, I wanted to discuss a few of the main reasons I have found to be true. I want to continue the conversation, and encourage anyone that feels they may need to talk to reach out to a professional in your area. I am in no way a professional, these are only my experiences and what I have learned through them!

1. No one can do it alone. Everyone will need support, including your supporters.

Experiencing a mental illness should be viewed the same as a physical injury. It is expected that when someone has a sprained ankle they will need assistance carrying objects, driving, completing everyday tasks. When someone is suffering from a mental illness they need assistance in different ways, yes, but there is small tasks you can assist them with in a similar way. Talking about mental illness is the first step to gaining support, asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength. Giving someone five minutes of your day to just talk to them, check in and see how they're doing could be exactly what they needed to stop the cycle of negative self talk.


The supporters of those suffering also need a place to turn, as sometimes it can be a daunting task. Knowing that it is okay to feel overwhelmed, uneasy, whatever you are feeling is a very important part to being a supporter. Overall, talking is key. Checking in with those around you, and having honest conversation is the best way to ensure everything is going well.


2. Opening up can be difficult, practice.

There are far too many individuals that have committed suicide each year where their closest friends and family weren't aware of what was going on. So many people are afraid of reaching out in fear of being judged, labelled or victimized. This stigma has made it harder than ever to be vulnerable in possibly the most vulnerable point of your life. From personal experience I know that in the moment, and some times for many too moments it seems easier to stay quiet. I found that journalling and practicing what I was going to "one day" tell my family, made it much easier to actually tell them. Yes it can take many days, weeks, months of "practicing" but it'll get there. Finding a way to essentially rehearse what you will say, thinking about what questions you may be asked, and writing all these things down made the real deal a little less stressful for me.


3. Speak against the Stigma

The more individuals that open up and speak about their experiences, the more that will feel comfortable to do the same and so on. Speaking to others about what you're experiencing can be a weight lifted off your shoulders, make you feel less alone and give an unexpected outlet that is so helpful.


4. It's your best, and only option!

When you really think about it, speaking up is your best option. This simple but daunting process opens the door for conversation, and ultimately recovery. The other outcome of staying silent, is not positive for anyone involved in the situation. There is so much to live for, and each person has their own individual reasons, keep those reasons close and constantly remind yourself of them. I found that having my positive affirmations written on sticky notes around my home, so I would physically see them on a constant basis was a great way of reminding myself. Find what works for you, and work on it, everyday. Recovery may not be easy, but it is the most worthwhile process you will go through.


If you are feeling symptoms of depression, or suicidal there are so many options of organizations you can reach out to that are anonymous and so helpful. Here 24/7 is a great example of one of these organizations. Please reach out to someone if you are feeling helpless, I promise it is well worth it.


Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts on this topic, I hope it was helpful to someone in some way. Speaking up takes away the power of a stigma, and I hope this may encourage someone to get the help they need.


Take Great Care,


Shaelyn


519-500-8650

Based In Kitchener, Ontario

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